Women Extramarital Affair: Why does the inclination of women towards extramarital affair increase after the age of 34?

Married Women Relationship: After many years of marriage, when life gets bound in a fixed routine, the emotions in the relationship slowly start to fade. Especially between the ages of 34 and 38, many women start feeling an emptiness inside, an emptiness that they cannot put into words. No one listens to them, nor understands them. In this period, when the needs of love, belongingness, and self-respect are ignored, some women silently start getting drawn towards someone else. This story is not about betrayal, but about those unfulfilled needs that distance them from themselves.

'Reema had been married for 10 years. Two children, a husband with a good job, and a perfect life from the outside. But inside, she had lost herself. Engrossed with the house and children from morning to night, Reema was no longer called "Reema" by anyone, for everyone she had become just "mummy", "wife", or "bhabhi". One day, a colleague in the office noticed the tiredness in her eyes and simply said, “Are you okay?” And at that moment, Reema realized that after many years, someone had felt her. That question was not just a sentence; it was a feeling that she had missed for years.

Reema is not alone. Many women between the ages of 34 and 38 go through this phase, where they do not need love, but need to be felt. This story is not just about an affair, but about the emotion that slowly dies when communication and sensitivity in a relationship end.

Why does this happen?

Relationship expert Mamta Solanki says that, between the ages of 34 and 38, many women quietly start moving towards emotional or physical affairs. The reason behind this is things like neglect in relationships, loneliness, and the pain of losing oneself. Let's understand the real reason.

When there is no love, only responsibility-
After a few years of marriage, many women start feeling ignored in the house. No one listens to them, no one understands them. They remain only as mother, wife, or daughter-in-law, while the woman inside them gets lost somewhere. Earlier, where there was closeness in the relationship, now there is only a daily routine and duty.

When a woman starts forgetting herself-
The identity of 'mother', 'wife', and 'caretaker' becomes so dominant that women forget to see themselves as human being. They again search for that gaze which sees them as a woman, not just a role, and makes them feel alive again.

When the body says something else, and the relationship does not understand-
At the age of 34–38, such hormonal changes come in the body, which awaken new needs of emotional and physical closeness. But when the married relationship has become stagnant, then these needs start pulling them towards someone else, and the hunger for closeness is not fulfilled there.

When the relationship becomes a boring routine-
When the relationship gets entangled in children, work, and responsibilities, then love is left behind. That laughter, those talks, that touch, all gradually disappear. In such a situation, the partner starts feeling far even though he is near, and the heart starts wandering in search of some connection.

When we get praise, understanding, and attention from outside-
As women become self-reliant and progress in their careers, they get such environments where they are 'felt'. If someone looks at them with a smile, listens to them carefully, then the heart also starts wandering. This is not a weakness, but a human need, to be felt.

Not a betrayal, an alarm!

Mamta says that these things are not about blaming someone, but about understanding and handling. If there is love in the relationship, then it is important to fill that emptiness in time. Women do not have affairs because they no longer love their partner, but because they lose connection with themselves.

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